Rochelle Almonte

We’re always longing to feel complete. Some people think that they need to find their soulmate in order to get that feeling. Others think that buying the things that they want will make them feel fulfilled. But in reality, the less you need, the more accomplished and happy you’ll be.

When we’re alone, we look for people to hang out with and when they’re all unavailable, we feel lonely and upset.

When we browse the internet and we see these people with expensive items and traveling the world, we want to do the same thing, but when we can’t, and we’re just home, we feel like a failure or we think that our life sucks.

When we see our friends who are all in a committed relationship, and we’re here single as F, we feel like we’re never going to find someone and we’ll be alone for the rest of our life.

And on top of all that, a lot of the time, we don’t blame ourselves, we blame the situation or other people.

It’s frustrating, right? Why do we think this way?

I wish I had the answer for you, but I don’t. There’s no straightforward answer to this question other than, that’s just how our brain works. However, we do have the control to change that mindset.

1. You have to learn to enjoy your own company. Remember, you’re your own best friend. When you reach adulthood, everyone will be busy. You can’t blame others for not having time for you because they have to work for a living and not everyone manages their time the way you do, so stop comparing them to the way YOU handle things. When they do give you time, appreciate it rather than make them feel bad about not spending enough time with you. Instead of sitting around waiting for someone to text or call you, take action. Do something productive. There’s so much to do and to learn in this world, you can’t say there’s NOTHING to do. You might think you need others to feel productive or to do activities, but you don’t. You can do so many on your own. You just need to accept that fact and start doing something about it.
2. If you’re the type to feel jealous when you see others traveling or owning expensive items on the internet, remove yourself from that situation by deleting your social media apps. You don’t need to deactivate your account, just delete the apps. The less you see, the less you’ll think about it. Also, if you have money to travel and you don’t go anywhere, but then you spend time being jealous about others going to places, that’s not their fault, it’s yours. You might say you have bills to pay and you have commitments, but we all do. You just need to prioritize and save. Once, you finally save up enough money, then, take the time off. Don’t envy others for spending money on themselves. It’s their life, their money, their time.
3. If you doubt yourself because you’re getting older and you have nobody, just know that it’s completely OK to be single… seriously. Instead of thinking about the benefits of being in a romantic relationship, start thinking about the benefits of being single. When the right person does come, you’ll feel like you have a partner that will complement you rather than complete you because you, yourself, are already fulfilled.

Do you want to be happy? Be content with what’s already in your possession.

All in all, do things with what you have already and focus on that. You don’t need anyone to start living life. Be satisfied, and stop searching for more because whether you like it or not, you don’t need more. You just need enough to survive.